Here's what I wrote a while back in 2018.
On Saturday, August 29th, 2009, that was my cousin Sarah’s wedding day. I was hesitant to go to the wedding, because she and her mother, who is my aunt, wouldn’t allow me to film anything. I only had in mind to keep the video under private, which it is till this very day….
It was a long drive to International Falls, Minnesota, which was where Sarah was having her wedding. My aunt’s husband’s parents were pretty old and so considering that’s where his parents lived, Sarah decided to have it there so they could attend.
On Friday, the first day there in the hotel, everything was fine. I rested by the pool and even took a dip.
So, when the wedding day came, I left my camera in the hotel during the ceremony so that my aunt wouldn’t think I was filming Sarah.
My aunt had said I could only take pictures and nothing else. So, with me just having my camera with me all the time, I didn’t want her to get the idea that I was also filming.
During the dinner, I was showing off my cupcake on film, and that’s when Kay’s boyfriend Shane says, “Nora’s filming. I see the red light.”
Yeah, I was only filming myself and since it’s a private video anyway, what business of it is his?
Kay then says for me to shut off my camera. “I see people from the head table in there. Shut it off. You’re not allowed to have it on!”
Seriously, if I could turn back time, I would have grabbed my plate of food and ate in the hotel room. I shouldn’t have been subjected to that stupidity and disrespect.
I had to help Mom with the shower before the dancing started. She was having problems turning off the showerhead in the bathroom. I turned off the water for her, almost freezing her off, because I didn’t know exactly what way to turn the cold off. I apologized to her for that.
I went back to the wedding, finding that the dancing started. I had the video on me as I walked through the crowd, and when my aunt Cindy saw me walking around, she asked me to put my camera away.
“No filming anyone, okay?” she says.
Wow, I couldn’t even film myself. Everyone in my family is over dramatic….
This is why I decided to stand out in the hallway, watching others dance. I was watching my brother dance while I was testing out my camera to make sure that the night vision of it didn’t leave any smears when motion was available.
Finding the right setting on the camera, I aimed it at him on the dance floor, finding Aunt Raeann dancing with him.
She happened to catch sight of me, and right before I snapped the picture, she walked up with her hand up saying, “no.”
I felt hurt and shocked. Didn’t she say to Mom that only pictures were allowed, not video? Wasn’t everyone else videotaping the wedding or taking pictures of it all? Wasn’t the photographer taking pictures of Sarah’s wedding?
I was also really offended by this! Why did she even say ‘only pictures and no video’ for my rule when that’s what I was doing? Why only leave me out? Why should I be the only one with that rule?! If there was no filming and then no pictures, then everyone else wouldn’t have been allowed to, as well, especially Sarah’s photographer!
At that moment, on what Raenn’s behavior had just put on, I noticed she was a two-faced person. I was really angry at her for doing that! Saying that I was allowed to take photos and then she goes ahead and changes her mind….
Again, if I could turn back time, I would have gone to every one of Sarah’s friends and photographer and ask for their phones/cameras. “No videos or pictures allowed, says the mother of the bride,” I’d say. Again, why would I want to be subjected to my aunt’s bullshit?
Shouldn’t weddings be a happy time? I find other people around the WORLD posting pictures and videos of their friend’s/family member’s wedding online all the time! And I did tell them, before I left for the long trip to International Falls, that I wasn’t going to publicly post it online!
So, yeah, my aunt was really rude and disrespectful to me. That was a two-faced thing she had done....
I went straight back to the hotel room and cried in the bathroom for over thirty minutes. I was very, very upset, hurt and confused by all of that, and if you were me, you wouldn’t blame yourself for being that upset and hurt!
I told Mom what happened and she too was confused and annoyed by all of that on how her sister acted.
“You know what I am going to do? I am going to ask her, ‘hey, how come Nora came back in the hotel room crying? What did you do to her?! How come you said that she could only take pictures, which she was doing, and then you said she couldn’t?’”
Instead, Mom didn’t want to get redressed and confront Raeann that way because Mom was already in bed.
The next morning, Dad didn’t understand what went on. “Nora wasn’t going to put it online. Don’t they understand that?!” is what Mom said to Dad before we left the hotel.
A few days after, I forget when Mom told Kay about what happened and Kay says, “Nora is such a drama queen. She shouldn’t get upset over that.”
Are you KIDDING me?!
This is why, in June of 2018, I didn’t attend my cousin Tim’s wedding. Cindy is his mother. I thought back to the situation in 2009 and asked myself: If they were like that then, what would you think would be different now?
Again, Tim’s wedding was out of state. I don’t recall where it was, though, and I also didn’t care for the long ride there considering my bad knee with the torn meniscus issue. My knee would hurt and caused me plenty of pain if I would get out of my seat if I was sitting for hours and hours.
So, because of the disrespect from my aunt Raeann in 2009 and the fact of my knee issues, I stayed home in Wisconsin, going about my days as usual. When I was asked why I didn’t go, I told them that I had knee issues but not the other reason. I just didn’t want to be subjected to more disrespect by those who should love me and claim that they do!
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