December 2018 [Part One]

OK, so I decided to show you two videos at a time.

These first two is about my loss of friends. One died, the other ... well...

Let's just say: Friends don't stay friends forever.

I felt, or another saying, I had a "hindsight", that my friendship with Melanie would be ending as of more than ten years ago. Yes her mom knew my phone number because I was texting her mom a few times about things, also asking her to give my number to Melanie. I don't think her mom ever gave Mel my number, because she never texted or called me like friends do.

I have a new rule that with having a friend. They need to be an "open book"; tell me what's going on. That way we can work around our plans to meet with each other. Having this new rule isn't making me out to be "demanding" what Dad believes I am.

So, with what happened in the past and recently, I decided to "cut ties" with her. She isn't reliable (example: promising she'd take me to the Urgent Care back in March 2018 and not showing up at my door the day she promised), she doesn't 'keep her word' with other things she said (example: me being a godparent to her second son), and since we haven't been speaking on the phone or through text anymore, I say her actions are louder than her words.

I don't care whose fault it was; her mom's or whoever. My point is: they should have remembered that they had invited me and before you say 'what if her sister decided that only family could attend the baptism?' I must state to you that in a letter, I made clear to her that since we've known one another for more than twenty years, she's considered as family to me. I also warned her that if she continues on with her bad behaviors ... 'we're done.'

I am sick and tired of being disappointed and hurt by people like her and others (like Robyn and Suzanne). There has come a time in my life-right now-to put my foot down to people who act like that.

Melanie may appear to be a "nice person" that goes to church every other Sunday, but really, when she acts like she does to me ... she's not. This is the truth of how things are in my eyes.

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I also hope Melanie doesn't patronize me ("this isn't anything to get upset over") or manipulate me ("hey, if you don't be friends with me anymore, you will miss out in seeing Moo") because I won't tolerate that either. Moo, by the way, is that black and white kitten I had picked up in one of the April videos.

Melanie needs to understand that friendship is important to me; think of it as a job, for example. If you don't call anymore, then it's your action that says that you don't want to be friends. If you "ghost" your friend, for example, then yeah, again ... not a friend.

So, goodbye, Melanie.